So first off I have to post here since I posted just about everywhere else LMAO!!
For this VDay writing assignment in her class everyone picked a person to write to (real or made up/famous/etc), Lily picked me, this boy...picked her. LOL.
Here is what the boy wrote, mind you these were hung outside thier class hallway. Dude is brave, I will give him that
"dear Lily,
How are you doing? Are you going to get pizza tonight? Because you flirt me up like 7-up. You are my soul mate. You are so pretty my eyes light up.
You are the prettiest girl in the whole class. I love the way you dress, talk, and walk. And what I love about you the most is your personality. And I love you!
Your friend,
namehere"
She brought it home since he gave it to her after they took them down for the weekend...lol. Now does this kid...have GAME...or does he have game? I'm jes saying.
Lemme paint you a mental picture. Kid is a big boy...BIG, brutha think Biggy Smalls but about 9y/o size. LOL. Lily and he hit it off right away and he likes her a lot I think because she does not judge his size...she tells me a lot of the other kids would make comments that were none too kind..but not Lily...I am proud to say. He's given her a book this year and always addresses me as "Mrs. LastName" so his manners are nice from what I have seen. Not one of "those boys" that are always clownin' and acting a fool in class.
I think it's cute. The hubs was less amused...lol. He threatened to take all Lily's cute gear from Justice back and buy her Walmart clothes instead LMAO!!
The snow today was spectacular and the kids and dogs all had such fun. I will be sad to see it go but am so happy I was here in Texas when the new "record for snowfall" was set! :)
Now..all the melting leads to MUD...urg. Bleah. bleck. etc.
Have a great Friday all!
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Friday, January 29, 2010
Friday, Final
Final is what this whole thing with Elias and school is. At least for the next 12 months. The ARD was today and at the end of it? A totally acceptable and indeed, comprehensive and impressive...IEP. A roadmap with visible markers, leading to his academic future. Guides to help ease him on his way, and concrete finite goals the school will be held to helping him attain.
The Holy Grail of parenting a special needs kids I am told...an IEP...and now my boy has one.
Since that comment by Elias's teacher all those months ago, this road has been very bumpy and jarring in places, and I am glad to be at the end of it. Even more glad because thanks to those jars and bumps...the NEXT time we tread down the same path as a family (and we will) we will have the shock absorber called "experience"...you feel me?
I am proud of all of us...everyone in this family pulled for Eli including Elias himself...submitting to test after test, doctor's visits, fearsome events for a six year old...but he did it. We as a family unit are stronger than we've ever been...closer it feels, and more able to deal with bad stuff that may occur.
I have to admit I do feel a bit of personal pride that comes from the fearsome Mama Bear stuff that happened with me, hoping I'll be allowed that with no crash and burn to bring me back down. That's me, always wary and watching for the other shoe to drop...no, not drop...kick me in the arse.
Positive, be positive...how's that work again?
Before I get too far into downerville I will end this, happy and grinning, feeling accomplished for once...like I've seen something thru.
Funny, that is on our whiteboard in the kitchen...it's our "Thought of the Week": FOLLOW THROUGH.
I think, I have :o)
The Holy Grail of parenting a special needs kids I am told...an IEP...and now my boy has one.
Since that comment by Elias's teacher all those months ago, this road has been very bumpy and jarring in places, and I am glad to be at the end of it. Even more glad because thanks to those jars and bumps...the NEXT time we tread down the same path as a family (and we will) we will have the shock absorber called "experience"...you feel me?
I am proud of all of us...everyone in this family pulled for Eli including Elias himself...submitting to test after test, doctor's visits, fearsome events for a six year old...but he did it. We as a family unit are stronger than we've ever been...closer it feels, and more able to deal with bad stuff that may occur.
I have to admit I do feel a bit of personal pride that comes from the fearsome Mama Bear stuff that happened with me, hoping I'll be allowed that with no crash and burn to bring me back down. That's me, always wary and watching for the other shoe to drop...no, not drop...kick me in the arse.
Positive, be positive...how's that work again?
Before I get too far into downerville I will end this, happy and grinning, feeling accomplished for once...like I've seen something thru.
Funny, that is on our whiteboard in the kitchen...it's our "Thought of the Week": FOLLOW THROUGH.
I think, I have :o)
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Monday Meeting
Today was the meeting to go over the school Psych's findings on Master Elias. Young Master Elias is not getting a recommendation for an IEP relating to an Autism disorder...which actually, is fine with me and I agree with, and he IS getting one for his ADHD/ADD which I also agree with.
We went over their Autism related testing, done with a panel of 4 adults with various credentials and reading what went on, had me interested and impressed. Eli has apparently made a LOT of progress and after some (appropriate given he is a 6 y/o boy taken to a room with 4 adults he did not know at all in it) apprehension he proceeded to interact with the testers, talk with them, laugh with them and look them in the eye. he completed all but a couple tasks and did them in a "non disordered" manner. That is good news as I see it.
Now I am not saying or believing my son does NOT have some sort of small difficulty likely to be some spectrum issue...BUT I agree with the school that those minor difficulties are NOT the reason his schooling is tough right now. That is ALL the ADHD and attention based stuff...well, most of it.
Likely some Learning Disorder too, which the will also be keeping a close watch on. I made it clear that under NO circumstance do I want to be late to the party on that score. My son WILL be checked on, often and ANY LD like issues will be dealt with promptly. There simply is not a crack out there with his name on it..for him to fall into, as far as we are concerned.
I think that was made very clear by us...
The formal ARD meeting where the plan for his education for the next 12 months is going to be presented, will be on Friday and I will certainly have my thoughts on that then for you to peruse LOL.
I feel in a better place now to deal with this, largely due to the man next to me during this meeting. Hubs has been such a rock thru this once I realized it's okay to lean on him and not handle all this weirdness on my own. Why I thought that necessary to begin with is...lame. Work in progress, folks!
I am looking forward to Friday.
Did I mention my daughter brought home STRAIGHT A'S?? I am sure I did lol...but there it is again. She is such a nice breather from all this. NO everything is not easy for her...she struggles and pushes our buttons, too sometimes...but her bright nimble mind is a good reprieve, and I enjoy so much watching her blossom into a very intelligent and confident young lady who knows her stuff and has set goals for herself.
Both my kids are so very different but they love each other so completely and without reservation is it a great comfort to me. They support one another and help one another when it counts...minor squabbles aside. They are a great example of how people should ALWAYS treat one another...with love, with fun, with joy, even thru disagreements and outright wars...you always come back to common ground and rebuild your love.
Happy Monday, all!
We went over their Autism related testing, done with a panel of 4 adults with various credentials and reading what went on, had me interested and impressed. Eli has apparently made a LOT of progress and after some (appropriate given he is a 6 y/o boy taken to a room with 4 adults he did not know at all in it) apprehension he proceeded to interact with the testers, talk with them, laugh with them and look them in the eye. he completed all but a couple tasks and did them in a "non disordered" manner. That is good news as I see it.
Now I am not saying or believing my son does NOT have some sort of small difficulty likely to be some spectrum issue...BUT I agree with the school that those minor difficulties are NOT the reason his schooling is tough right now. That is ALL the ADHD and attention based stuff...well, most of it.
Likely some Learning Disorder too, which the will also be keeping a close watch on. I made it clear that under NO circumstance do I want to be late to the party on that score. My son WILL be checked on, often and ANY LD like issues will be dealt with promptly. There simply is not a crack out there with his name on it..for him to fall into, as far as we are concerned.
I think that was made very clear by us...
The formal ARD meeting where the plan for his education for the next 12 months is going to be presented, will be on Friday and I will certainly have my thoughts on that then for you to peruse LOL.
I feel in a better place now to deal with this, largely due to the man next to me during this meeting. Hubs has been such a rock thru this once I realized it's okay to lean on him and not handle all this weirdness on my own. Why I thought that necessary to begin with is...lame. Work in progress, folks!
I am looking forward to Friday.
Did I mention my daughter brought home STRAIGHT A'S?? I am sure I did lol...but there it is again. She is such a nice breather from all this. NO everything is not easy for her...she struggles and pushes our buttons, too sometimes...but her bright nimble mind is a good reprieve, and I enjoy so much watching her blossom into a very intelligent and confident young lady who knows her stuff and has set goals for herself.
Both my kids are so very different but they love each other so completely and without reservation is it a great comfort to me. They support one another and help one another when it counts...minor squabbles aside. They are a great example of how people should ALWAYS treat one another...with love, with fun, with joy, even thru disagreements and outright wars...you always come back to common ground and rebuild your love.
Happy Monday, all!
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Mad Tea Party
Lily found, in her closet an unopened "cherry" Hummel tea set her grandma purchased for her years ago. I had been keeping it out of her reach because it's actual porcelain and well, yeah...you know.
Anywhoo she found it last night and wanted to play with it so we let her...and immediately right there in the living room a Tea Party happened. First the only guests were her stuffed animals...the two wolves and Brownie the dog.
Of course brother came into it late and wanted to play...tea parties are genteel affairs and he came in, boxers exposed, head first slide style onto the living room roaring "TEA PARRRRTTYYY" I swear he should have been wearing a frickin TOGA!!
It was funny to watch Lily visibly flinch everytime he clattered a teacup against a saucer or plate LOL...it's evil of me to laugh but he WAS being as gentle as he knows how to be. She was doing her BEST Hyacinth Bucket lemme tell ya...worried about her "Royal Doulton with the handpainted periwinkles" *cackles* all was well tho, nothing broken.
She packed it up and put it away when they were done exclaiming grandly "I will have to have a tea party every week at least!"
Hope everyone enjoys their Thursday. Kids get out early and as mentioned it's CHIK FIL A NIGHT!!! whoo hoo!!! Where's my toga??
Anywhoo she found it last night and wanted to play with it so we let her...and immediately right there in the living room a Tea Party happened. First the only guests were her stuffed animals...the two wolves and Brownie the dog.
Of course brother came into it late and wanted to play...tea parties are genteel affairs and he came in, boxers exposed, head first slide style onto the living room roaring "TEA PARRRRTTYYY" I swear he should have been wearing a frickin TOGA!!
It was funny to watch Lily visibly flinch everytime he clattered a teacup against a saucer or plate LOL...it's evil of me to laugh but he WAS being as gentle as he knows how to be. She was doing her BEST Hyacinth Bucket lemme tell ya...worried about her "Royal Doulton with the handpainted periwinkles" *cackles* all was well tho, nothing broken.
She packed it up and put it away when they were done exclaiming grandly "I will have to have a tea party every week at least!"
Hope everyone enjoys their Thursday. Kids get out early and as mentioned it's CHIK FIL A NIGHT!!! whoo hoo!!! Where's my toga??
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Elias, the kiddo has (had?) Fifth's Disease. I figured as much. He showed up with a bright red cheeked rash Friday or maybe Thursday which we assumed was his eczema flaring up due to the extreme cold and lack of humidity...
Sunday he got his bath and dh noted the rash was down the back of his neck and arms too...decided to slather him in lotion, pop him a Benadryl, and send him to bed.
I got him up Monday (yesterday) and dressed and didn't notice much, it'd faded even...but on picking him up from school it had spread and darkened from pink to a nice red. Ugh. I thought heat rash since he was wearing a long sleeved shirt and he is NEVER cold and sweats like a pig.
This morning...it had taken over his legs and torso and was not looking like anything that was going to go away so I kept him home...which he hated.
Appt just now, Fifth'sDisease. Of course once you KNOW you have it via the rash, you are no longer contagious sucks for his class and their parents eh? The symptoms are really no big aside from looking strange lol. Minor cold on the onset...really minor in his case, we thought his allergies got him...gone in a day or two...you think you're fine then you wake up spotty.
I called the school...lettem know. In case there are any preggy ladies on staff. It's bad for preggy ladies.
Elias does like to pick up the exotic stuff! He yelled at me all mean like when I didn't send him to school at 2pm because there's just an hour left.
In other news...our water was briefly turned off! My sister came by to swing us by the docs and handed me the door notice "water turned off for lack of payment" WHHHHAAAAAT! I called "the man" of the house and he figures it was the old card getting switched off and the new one getting switched ON, that he did online that caused the issue. He called them and by the time we were back from the appt it was back on...in fact the guy was out front right when we pulled in! Lordy...for a second there it felt really weird, never had that happen before. But thankfully just a hiccup...
I wanted to make meatloaf tonight...and mashed taters...not sure I have the energy after a day with Elias...and I am sure he'll have some makeup work at school to grab and get thru...*sigh*. Oh well, at least there's a hockey game on tonight...GO WINGS, GO!
Sunday he got his bath and dh noted the rash was down the back of his neck and arms too...decided to slather him in lotion, pop him a Benadryl, and send him to bed.
I got him up Monday (yesterday) and dressed and didn't notice much, it'd faded even...but on picking him up from school it had spread and darkened from pink to a nice red. Ugh. I thought heat rash since he was wearing a long sleeved shirt and he is NEVER cold and sweats like a pig.
This morning...it had taken over his legs and torso and was not looking like anything that was going to go away so I kept him home...which he hated.
Appt just now, Fifth'sDisease. Of course once you KNOW you have it via the rash, you are no longer contagious sucks for his class and their parents eh? The symptoms are really no big aside from looking strange lol. Minor cold on the onset...really minor in his case, we thought his allergies got him...gone in a day or two...you think you're fine then you wake up spotty.
I called the school...lettem know. In case there are any preggy ladies on staff. It's bad for preggy ladies.
Elias does like to pick up the exotic stuff! He yelled at me all mean like when I didn't send him to school at 2pm because there's just an hour left.
In other news...our water was briefly turned off! My sister came by to swing us by the docs and handed me the door notice "water turned off for lack of payment" WHHHHAAAAAT! I called "the man" of the house and he figures it was the old card getting switched off and the new one getting switched ON, that he did online that caused the issue. He called them and by the time we were back from the appt it was back on...in fact the guy was out front right when we pulled in! Lordy...for a second there it felt really weird, never had that happen before. But thankfully just a hiccup...
I wanted to make meatloaf tonight...and mashed taters...not sure I have the energy after a day with Elias...and I am sure he'll have some makeup work at school to grab and get thru...*sigh*. Oh well, at least there's a hockey game on tonight...GO WINGS, GO!
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
How many acronyms...
Can we stick onto Elias? LOL.
Hmm...I might add another soon...
"LD", learning disability. Most likely...aside from the other two issues his doc suggested, after a discussion about his eye doctor visit today...that his lack of connecting what he SEES...to what he WRITES, or SAYS...is probably a Learning Disability of some type.
I can ge behind that because now that the Concerta has removed a lot of the distraction for the boy, he STILL has trouble writing especially copying...something already printed on his own, and staying within the confines of his lines or paper. Let alone making legible letters or all the same size letters.
I read a bit on "dysgraphia" and boy that does seem to be a possible. It seems there a lot that can be done for it, and he will be able to eventually learn how to make the most of what he can do, in spite of it. Which I already knew...I wouldn't let it be any other way!
So now after Xmas break I am going to grab hold of the school again and make sure they have done some LD testing in addition to the other stuff for ADHD and Aspergers and are adding that into any IEP that comes about. Mustn't let them get away too long without being called to the carpet to report! TEEHEE!!
Christmas nearly upon us I can reflect on what a bumpy end of the year it's been...but I am certainly more educated and invested in my kids, both of them as a result. I feel like I've grown as a parent and as a wife too. So that makes the bumps a lot easier to manage!
Merry Christmas all! I am saying that in case I don't get to the blog again til afterwards! :)
Hmm...I might add another soon...
"LD", learning disability. Most likely...aside from the other two issues his doc suggested, after a discussion about his eye doctor visit today...that his lack of connecting what he SEES...to what he WRITES, or SAYS...is probably a Learning Disability of some type.
I can ge behind that because now that the Concerta has removed a lot of the distraction for the boy, he STILL has trouble writing especially copying...something already printed on his own, and staying within the confines of his lines or paper. Let alone making legible letters or all the same size letters.
I read a bit on "dysgraphia" and boy that does seem to be a possible. It seems there a lot that can be done for it, and he will be able to eventually learn how to make the most of what he can do, in spite of it. Which I already knew...I wouldn't let it be any other way!
So now after Xmas break I am going to grab hold of the school again and make sure they have done some LD testing in addition to the other stuff for ADHD and Aspergers and are adding that into any IEP that comes about. Mustn't let them get away too long without being called to the carpet to report! TEEHEE!!
Christmas nearly upon us I can reflect on what a bumpy end of the year it's been...but I am certainly more educated and invested in my kids, both of them as a result. I feel like I've grown as a parent and as a wife too. So that makes the bumps a lot easier to manage!
Merry Christmas all! I am saying that in case I don't get to the blog again til afterwards! :)
Friday, December 18, 2009
After the fire
Unfortunately not talking about a great album...lol.
My son, my 6 year old son, set a fire tonight in our home...first off everyone is fine...thank the diety of your choice!
The origin would be a candle "I" left foolishy burning in the bathroom to banish a horrendous poop stench...Elias said he was going to go pee...did so...emerged and went back to watching the playroom TV, the rest of us were watching a movie out in the living room.
SOMETHING made me get off the couch and head to the hallway...I don't recall smelling anything BEFORE getting up but maybe it was subconcious who knows?
Anywhoo I got up and went into the hallway and smelled BURNING...thinking at first "oh the candle...someone blew it out" I glanced at the door which was closed and saw a telltale orangey glow UNDER the door. OH.MAI.GAWD.I flung the door open (yeah I saw Backdraft and that was dumb...I confess my stupidity....knob wasn't hot tho) and there was a line of flame from the trashcan...up to a towel hanging over it...onto the wall directly under that...and going up to the window over that...LIVELY flames...eye popping really...just didn't expect that on a nice quiet Friday night...
I shot outta the hallway yelling at hubs to CALL 9-1-1 NOW....repeating when he asked why, FIRE IN THE BATHROOM CALL IT NNNNOW!...and I hustled up the kids, Lily FREAKED OUT...I mean she was staring down the hallway at that flaming towel with these eyes like saucers...OUTSIDE...NOW!! I yelled and she shot outside like a cannonball.
ELIASSSSSS!!! out he comes from the playroom....OUTSIDE NOW!!Meanwhile hubs is IN THE BATHROOM watering the flames down...we waited on the FD which showed up in okay time...hubs had the flames gone but it was making that "crackling" sound...you know a warning "I am not dead, only sleeping" sound...FD made sure it was well and truly, dead before leaving.
I went outside and opened the car and put the kids in there, couple of the firemen walked by and checked on us a couple times...
I proceeded to grill my son...and got it from him...he put a tissue in the candle...it burned and he got scared and threw it in the trashcan. In his mind, that was it....no reason to tell me, he didn't get burned. No big. To him. Yeah...I wanted to choke him briefly...I really did. I thought of him doing that and going up like fatback bacon as an ember caught his shirt...horrendous. More horrendous is it was my fault...that candle was there because I put it there. Lesson learned...never again. Not with an impulse control challenged ADHD kid in the house.All candles went in the trash tonight. Seriously.
Elias and Lily are both in bed...Lily seems better once she was able to talk to us...and graphically describe what she saw and ask questions about it and rationalize it. My Mom came when I called her (much love) and took them to her house...but later because E was crying, saying he wanted to go home, and sad and that's out of character for him...we went and picked them up after we cleaned up.
I think Elias was crying @ my Mom's, because he was worried his home would still burn or be gone, or maybe he thought because I was mad, and the FD guys talked to him and everyone seemed so mad...then he got sent away...maybe he would have to stay gone. So we brought him home...
Feeling a lot of different things right now. The "low" after the adrenaline rush of panic, fear, action, duty, etc.Bless the hubs for jumping in there and putting it out before it could eat more of the wall or get really out of hand...he is braver than I give him credit for.
I am drinking Sangria...LOTS of it...tonight. Anyone care to join me?
My son, my 6 year old son, set a fire tonight in our home...first off everyone is fine...thank the diety of your choice!
The origin would be a candle "I" left foolishy burning in the bathroom to banish a horrendous poop stench...Elias said he was going to go pee...did so...emerged and went back to watching the playroom TV, the rest of us were watching a movie out in the living room.
SOMETHING made me get off the couch and head to the hallway...I don't recall smelling anything BEFORE getting up but maybe it was subconcious who knows?
Anywhoo I got up and went into the hallway and smelled BURNING...thinking at first "oh the candle...someone blew it out" I glanced at the door which was closed and saw a telltale orangey glow UNDER the door. OH.MAI.GAWD.I flung the door open (yeah I saw Backdraft and that was dumb...I confess my stupidity....knob wasn't hot tho) and there was a line of flame from the trashcan...up to a towel hanging over it...onto the wall directly under that...and going up to the window over that...LIVELY flames...eye popping really...just didn't expect that on a nice quiet Friday night...
I shot outta the hallway yelling at hubs to CALL 9-1-1 NOW....repeating when he asked why, FIRE IN THE BATHROOM CALL IT NNNNOW!...and I hustled up the kids, Lily FREAKED OUT...I mean she was staring down the hallway at that flaming towel with these eyes like saucers...OUTSIDE...NOW!! I yelled and she shot outside like a cannonball.
ELIASSSSSS!!! out he comes from the playroom....OUTSIDE NOW!!Meanwhile hubs is IN THE BATHROOM watering the flames down...we waited on the FD which showed up in okay time...hubs had the flames gone but it was making that "crackling" sound...you know a warning "I am not dead, only sleeping" sound...FD made sure it was well and truly, dead before leaving.
I went outside and opened the car and put the kids in there, couple of the firemen walked by and checked on us a couple times...
I proceeded to grill my son...and got it from him...he put a tissue in the candle...it burned and he got scared and threw it in the trashcan. In his mind, that was it....no reason to tell me, he didn't get burned. No big. To him. Yeah...I wanted to choke him briefly...I really did. I thought of him doing that and going up like fatback bacon as an ember caught his shirt...horrendous. More horrendous is it was my fault...that candle was there because I put it there. Lesson learned...never again. Not with an impulse control challenged ADHD kid in the house.All candles went in the trash tonight. Seriously.
Elias and Lily are both in bed...Lily seems better once she was able to talk to us...and graphically describe what she saw and ask questions about it and rationalize it. My Mom came when I called her (much love) and took them to her house...but later because E was crying, saying he wanted to go home, and sad and that's out of character for him...we went and picked them up after we cleaned up.
I think Elias was crying @ my Mom's, because he was worried his home would still burn or be gone, or maybe he thought because I was mad, and the FD guys talked to him and everyone seemed so mad...then he got sent away...maybe he would have to stay gone. So we brought him home...
Feeling a lot of different things right now. The "low" after the adrenaline rush of panic, fear, action, duty, etc.Bless the hubs for jumping in there and putting it out before it could eat more of the wall or get really out of hand...he is braver than I give him credit for.
I am drinking Sangria...LOTS of it...tonight. Anyone care to join me?
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